Dating is not a godly institution
And if he is not ready to be a husband, dating him could only have a sorrowful outcome.
Marriage is a covenantal bond between a man and a woman where there is dependence—to a certain extent.
While you do not want that to happen, it is reality. Also, if he wants you to meet all his needs, that is close to idolatry (Exodus 20:3, 4). Do not fall for the statement of, “I just care about you so much,” when a guy won’t keep his hands to himself.
You will disappoint each other, not on purpose, but you will. The truth is, he cares more about himself in that scenario.
As Solomon, the wisest man of all, said, “For wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her”, (Proverbs ). A man who does not want counsel and hides from accountability is a man who is not ready to be open with a wife.
He may seem strong and independent, but he may actually be prideful.
As a practical matter, are you responsible and holy in the way you possess your own spirit, mind and body?
A man may apologize to you over and over again, but if he has abused you even once, leave the dating relationship immediately. Encourage him to find a godly man who can help him, but you should get out fast. Has he not taken adult responsibility such as his living arrangements or expenses? If your date is a flirt or has many close female friends (especially previous girlfriends), this is something to take as a caution.
It can be difficult to be clear-headed in a dating relationship.
It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes.
It’s an good question that needs to be considered seriously. The same applies for sexual innuendo that is inappropriate before marriage.
If he is always broaching conversations about sex, he is not doing a good job of helping you to protect your mind against lust before marriage.
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I am not implying that a man has to be a prude, but he is to be a protector.