Dating advice playing
If you find yourself on the receiving end of wishy washy plans that usually fail to materialise, the chances are the person you’re dating is either seeing other people (which is completely fine but if they’re stringing you along when it comes to making plans with you, that’s not fine), are too busy in their own life or confused about what they want.They might not even be doing it intentionally to play games but you’re far better spending your time on those who know what they want and commit to plans. It should be something that gets us out meeting new people, socialising, trying new experiences and ultimately, leading to something meaningful with someone.Unfortunately some of that fun can be somewhat diminished by the game playing that can occur in dating.Girl’s Game Changer: In order the separate the man who actually DOES fall in love with you at first sight and CAN go the distance from the players, a woman must pace the relationship.authors Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider recommend: "Don’t see him more than once or twice a week for the first month or two." They also suggest not inviting him back to your place for the first few dates, and holding off on sex until you’re confident he’ll stick around.
The game is a blast for both parties involved – until a woman finds herself wondering why the man who was “crazy for her” and “couldn’t get enough of her” has poofed after a few rolls in the hay.
Yes, it’s true, as one of my (predictably, male) critics pointed out: a woman may miss out on some occasional spontaneous fun -- like fabulous last minute tickets that a guy has just scored -- if she has “a rule” against accepting last minute invitations.
But far more often, the fun, fantastic nights out women ARE missing are those they COULD have planned with their girlfriends but DIDN’T because they were trying to keep their schedules open to accommodate last minute invitations from men! This is the fun little merry-go-round in which a man creates the impression that the two of you are in a serious relationship when he’s actually stringing you along, enjoying your sexual favors and home-cooked meals, while actively looking for something better. If you’re seeing him once or twice a week, then make sure one of those dates is international date night: Saturday. If he does call and ask to get back together, proceed with caution. The defensive dating techniques I recommend can protect your already bruised heart from getting brutalized once more.
BECAUSE IT WON’T WORK and it will only come across as nagging.
As I said in my previous blog, I think the “three days in advance” (e.g., Wednesday for Saturday) as proposed in is reasonable.